What to do if he wants to break-up
We’ve all been there. He starts being more and more distant, you start fighting more often, he acts more and more as if he doesn’t care and then… those 4 horrible words: “we have to talk”. You feel it coming but still can’t believe when it actually happens. And before you can realize it, you are dumped. That’s when the chaos begins. But if you fallow these simple tips, you can avoid a lot of wrong moves and quickly get back with your ex. Here’s what to do from the minute your boyfriend announces his decision:
1. When he gives you the news, try to keep your emotions under control. You know what “we have to talk” means, so you can anticipate what comes next and be prepared. So try to be strong and take his decision to leave you “as a man”. Act indifferent, as this would be something you thought about too and tell him you also think this is for the best. Even if you feel the complete opposite, concentrate to keep it together and hold in your emotions. This way, the guy who rejected you feels rejected himself.
2. After the break-up, take up the “no contact” strategy. As hard as it is, forbid yourself to contact him under any false pretext. Sure, you have some stuff at his place or he left some CD’s over yours, but none of these are emergencies. Go away for a few days, take a mini vacation and just walk away from everything. Clear you head, put yourself first, for a change. After this time out you will see things differently, you will be more detached and you will be able to analyze things better.
3. Start taking care of yourself. Try to self-improve yourself, both physical and mental. There must be several hobbies and passions you have which had been ignored during the time when you were with your ex. Re-focus your attention on them. And go out with your friends, spend time with your family, see movies, go shopping. Don’t isolate yourself, don’t feel sorry for yourself. It’s not the end of the world, although it might seem so at this time. You will survive. Remember Gloria Gaynor’s song? Everyone has been there at one point or another.
4. If he starts to get in touch with you don’t act too anxious. Don’t answer his calls or text messages right away. Play a little hard to get. Don’t be too excited when you talk to him and don’t be too available. If he wants to meet you, tell him you have other plans and reschedule. Be nice, not rude or mean and be cool like you got over him but still want to be friends. Appear confident and your positive vibes will make him realize that you are just fine even without him in your life. This will trigger an immense desire in your man to get back with you and you are sure to win him back if you play your cards well.
